Do you have a rambunctious child? Have you tried a few discipline techniques, only for them to fail? You’re not alone. Every child is different and requires different strategies when it comes to managing discipline. Due to this fact, the reward system has become a controversial topic. Is it right in general? Or is it right for your child? It may even be the wrong method to use, but we’re going to go over the pros and cons, so you can make an informed decision of your own.
1. Follow Instructions
The reward system has been known to increase positive responses in children. When they know that there’s a treat involved, then they’ll likely listen to what you have to say. You may even compare this to training your pet. Has it shown results in your own life?
If they know they’re going to get something good out of the task, why not put their full effort into it? Kids have shown more motivation for classroom tasks and chores at home. It gives them an incentive to do better, and that’s something we can all do.
3. Happy Kids
Every child is unique, however, the reward system has shown an increase in self-esteem. Each success builds it up and keeps the kids striving for more. They want to do better while they grow, as the rewards can only get better, right? We certainly hope so, though there is a balance to everything.
5. Improved Outcomes
Overall, the reward system promotes improved outcomes. Looking at it as an adult, you can see why good outcomes are important, as you want to raise them to be a beneficial member of society. Rewards may just be the training wheels they need to get there. Does it work on you?
As we all experience, if something becomes routine, then it loses value. That ice cream doesn’t seem so special if you get it every day. That participation ribbon doesn’t mean so much if it’s given to everyone. You have to find the right balance and timing when it comes to rewards.
Now, the adverse effect can happen when the child puts too much value into the reward. They may not do the work unless a reward is involved. And why not? There’s no benefit for them? They don’t understand the real purpose of the task if they’re focused on the reward.
3. Tunnel Vision
Children are smart. They may see the reward system as a type of manipulation…is it? They, in turn, will learn that manipulation is a great way to get what they want. They’ll twist the teachings into something that shouldn’t be used, whether it’s subconscious or otherwise. Have you ever met a manipulative person? Do you think this is how they learned it?